Yes, some people can come from their nipples. A nipple orgasm (or nipplegasm) is a climax set off by playing with your nipples and breasts, with little or no touch anywhere else, and some people really do get there.
The honest part: nobody has a good number for how many people can come from nipple play alone. Some people learn it. Plenty never do. Either way, great nipple play makes everything else hotter, so you win even if your nipples never take you all the way.
Here's the whole playbook: the science, a real section for men, solo and partner routines, a library of moves, how to use suckers and clamps, a 20-minute session plan and the toys worth owning.
What’s in this guide
- What is a nipple orgasm (nipplegasm)?
- Why nipple play feels so good
- Can men have nipple orgasms?
- How to have a nipple orgasm solo, step by step
- How to give your partner a nipple orgasm
- Nipple play techniques: 9 moves to try
- How to use nipple toys: suckers, clamps and vibes
- A 20-minute nipple orgasm session plan
- Nipple play safety
- Why can't I have a nipple orgasm?
- The best nipple toys for nipple orgasms
- Nipple orgasm FAQ
- Your nipples, your pace
What is a nipple orgasm (nipplegasm)?
A nipple orgasm is an orgasm triggered mainly by stimulating the nipples, areolas and breasts. "Nipplegasm" is the nickname. Same thing, more fun to say.
People who have them describe them a few ways:
- The slow tip-over. Arousal builds in the chest until it spills into a full orgasm, with the same pulsing finish as genital play.
- The chest-centered wave. A warm, tingling release that radiates out from the breasts, softer than a clit or cock orgasm but unmistakably a climax.
- The assist. Nipple play takes them so close that the lightest touch below finishes it. It counts in our book.
Those are reported experiences, not a rulebook.
The goal worth having: nipple play that makes you wet, hard, breathless and desperate. If it tips into an orgasm on its own, that's the bonus round.
Why nipple play feels so good
Your nipples and areolas are packed with nerve endings: touch them, get cold or get turned on, and the nipple tightens and stands up. The interesting part is your brain.
The brain-map study. In a small brain-imaging study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2011, Komisaruk and colleagues used fMRI to scan 11 women. Stimulating the nipple lit up the chest region of the brain's sensory map, as expected. It also activated the genital region, the same area that lights up for the clitoris, vagina and cervix.
That's a neat clue to why nipple play feels so sexual for some people. It's also one small study of women: it doesn't prove anything about everyone, and a brain area lighting up isn't an orgasm.
The survey. In a 2006 survey of 301 undergraduates, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Levin and Meston found that 81.5% of women and 51.7% of men said nipple stimulation caused or enhanced their sexual arousal. About 7% said it decreased their arousal. Young college sample, clear takeaway: for most people nipples turn the heat up, and for a few they turn it down.
Why it spreads. Nipple play and genital arousal tend to build together: as your nipples get worked, your clit swells and you get wet, or your cock gets hard. That's what makes nipple play such a good warm-up, even when it doesn't finish you.
Can men have nipple orgasms?
Yes, some men can have nipple orgasms, and plenty of men find nipple play seriously hot. Everyone's nipples grow from the same tissue before birth and carry the same kind of nerve wiring. Men usually have less breast tissue around them, but the same wiring.
If nobody has played with yours properly, you don't know yet which side of that survey you land on. And no, liking it isn't gay, straight or anything else. It's nerves.
How to start (for men, or anyone with a flatter chest):
- Get turned on first. Stroke your cock, or touch whatever gets you going, for a few minutes. Nipples usually respond more once you're already turned on.
- Pinch, don't palm. With less tissue to grab, the action is in the nipple itself. Wet it with lube or spit, roll it between thumb and index finger, then squeeze and hold.
- Pair them. Stroke with one hand and work a nipple with the other. Then slow the stroking and keep the nipple going. Over a few sessions, some men find the nipples start carrying more of the load.
- Try a small sucker. The Master Series Viper Nipple Suckers are about 1 inch wide and need no batteries, an easy first sucker. Chest hair can break a seal, so trim around the nipple or add a little lube.
With a partner: have them suck or pinch your nipple during a handjob or blowjob, or reach up while you're inside them. Watching each other is the fastest way to learn: see our mutual masturbation guide. For toys built for cocks, browse our sex toys for men.
How to have a nipple orgasm solo, step by step
Learning alone is easier, because nobody has to guess. Block out 20 to 30 minutes, silence your phone, and treat it as an experiment, not an exam.
- Set up. Warm room, lube within reach, pillows behind you. Erotica, porn or a fantasy: whatever gets your brain going.
- Warm up the whole chest. Slow sweeps over your collarbones, ribs and the sides and undersides of your breasts or pecs. Make your nipples wait.
- Circle and brush. One wet fingertip circles the areola without touching the nipple, then grazes the very tip, then circles again.
- Flick. Flick the nipple up and down with your fingertip, about once a second, then faster.
- Pinch, roll and pull. Roll the nipple between thumb and index finger, squeeze and hold, then tug gently outward. Rate the pressure from 1 to 10 and find your number.
- Add lube. Slick fingers let you pinch and slide off the tip, a tease dry fingers can't do. For a warm glide, JO All In One Warming Massage Glide warms on contact. It's silicone-based, so wipe it off before a silicone toy goes on (the 10x Rotating Nipple Suckers take water-based lube only), and try a drop on your inner arm first, since warming glides can be a lot on nipples.
- Play with temperature. Dip your fingertips in a cold drink, touch your nipples, then warm them with your palm.
- Find your rhythm and stay there. When something makes you catch your breath, keep doing exactly that. Don't switch moves at the good part.
- Add a toy. A sucker on one nipple keeps working while your fingers take the other, so you're not running out of hands.
- Edge. When you feel close, drop back to light circles for 30 seconds, then build again. Two or three rounds often make the next build bigger.
- Bring in the clit or cock at the end, if you want. Add the lightest touch below while the nipple play keeps going. Next session, wait a little longer before you add it.
Breathe into your chest. Long, slow breaths, and don't hold your breath at the peak. Tension elsewhere tends to block what's building.
How to give your partner a nipple orgasm
Giving a nipplegasm takes patience, attention and a good mouth. First agree on a stop word (or a double tap if mouths are busy), and ask about teeth. "Can I bite?" is sexy, not awkward.
- Start over clothes. Trace their nipples through a shirt or bra, then undress them slowly, kissing the neck and sides of the breasts before going near the nipple.
- Use your breath. Lick the areola, blow cool air across it, then warm it with an open-mouthed exhale.
- Lick and flick. Flat tongue circling the areola, then the tip of your tongue flicking the nipple up and down and side to side. Try fast and light, then slow and wet, and watch which one lands.
- Suck. Seal your lips around the nipple and draw it in. Suck, release, suck. Then hold a steady pull while your tongue flicks the tip inside your mouth. Stay here as long as they're moaning.
- Never leave one side lonely. While your mouth works one nipple, your fingers roll, pinch or tug the other.
- Add gentle teeth, with their yes. Graze, then close down softly. Never chomp. Ask for a number from 1 to 10 and stay under it.
- Read the body. Faster breathing, arching into you, hands pulling your head closer: keep going exactly like that. Pulling away or going quiet: lighten up and check in.
- Talk. Tell them how hard their nipples are and how good they look like this. "Harder or softer?" is a check-in and dirty talk at once.
- Don't rush the finish. If they're close, keep the same rhythm. Jumping to their genitals too early is an easy way to miss a nipple orgasm.
Working nipple play into sex. In cowgirl, the person underneath reaches up and pinches. In doggy or spooning, reach around. Hands busy? Hands-free suckers or vibrating clamps keep the nipples going while you fuck.
For a playful opener, Candy Nipple Tassels ($10.95) are strings of candy beads worn as nipple jewelry. A game, not a stimulator. Eat the candy, not the string.
Nipple play techniques: 9 moves to try
Mix them and repeat what works, alone or together.
The feather
A fingertip (or a real feather) drawn across the tip of the nipple and around the areola, barely making contact. Use it to warm up, and come back to it whenever you need to slow the build.
The circle
A wet fingertip traces the edge of the areola, slowly closing in until you're circling the nipple itself. Change direction every few laps and keep the speed steady.
The roll
The nipple between thumb and index finger, rolled back and forth like a bead. Start soft. As arousal climbs, most nipples want more pressure, not less.
Pinch and hold
Squeeze firmly, hold for 3 to 5 seconds, release slowly. The release is half the sensation. Squeeze a little firmer each round until you hear "there."
The tug
Pinch and pull gently away from the chest, hold, release, about once a second. If light touch does nothing for you, start here.
The flick
A finger or tongue snapping across the tip. Light and fast is a buzz. Slow and firm is a slap. Try both.
The suck
Lips sealed, a steady draw, the tongue moving inside. Alternate long, steady pulls with short pulses. A sucker can take over when your mouth gets tired.
Ice or cool
Cold fingers from an iced drink, or an ice cube in your mouth, then touch or suck the nipple. Keep the cold moving instead of parking it, and follow with a warm mouth or palm.
Combined with genital play
One hand on a nipple, the other on the clit or cock, rhythms matched. Near the edge, slow the genital touch and keep the nipple steady.
How to use nipple toys: suckers, clamps and vibes
Toys never tire, and suckers and clamps work both nipples at once and free your hands. Here's how the types compare.
| Toy type | Sensation | Intensity | Best for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Squeeze suckers | Steady pull that draws the nipple in (squeeze harder before placing for more) | Medium to strong | First-timers, smaller nipples, men |
| Twist suckers | Pull you dial up a little at a time | Low to high | Exact control |
| Rotating suckers | Suction plus nubs circling the nipple | Medium | Hands-free solo play and sex |
| Vibrating clamps | A squeeze with a buzz on top | Medium | Building toward a nipplegasm |
| Adjustable screw clamps | A pinch you set with a screw | Low to high | Learning your pressure number |
| Chain clamps | A set pinch, plus a pull whenever the chain moves | Low to high | Partner play, learning to love a tug |
| Clover clamps | A pinch that tightens when tugged | High | Experienced players and kink |
| Magnetic clamps | A firm squeeze from two magnets | High | Nipples that already love firm pressure |
| Licking or suction toys | Flicking tongue or air pull | Low to medium | Oral-style teasing |
| Wands | Broad, deep vibration | Medium to high | A chest-wide rumble, then the main event |
Everything here, and more, lives in our nipple clamps and suckers collection.
How to use nipple suckers
- Get aroused first, then smear the rim with a dab of water-based lube so it seals.
- Attach. Squeeze-style: squeeze, press over the nipple, let go. Twist-style: press the base flat, then twist the cap to draw suction.
- Start gentle. A pull you can feel, not a vacuum that hurts. Wait a minute before adding more.
- Keep it short at first. Try 5 minutes, then build over later sessions. Take them off at once at any numbness, sharp pain or discoloration.
- Release, don't yank. Press the skin at the rim to break the seal, or twist back. Expect a rush of sensation and extra-sensitive nipples afterward. Lick them then.
How to use nipple clamps
- Clamp the nipple, not the areola. Pinch the nipple out a little and place the clamp toward its base.
- Start loose. On adjustable clamps, loosen all the way, put them on, then tighten slowly to a firm but pleasant pinch, about a 4 or 5 out of 10.
- Wait before tightening. Clamps feel stronger the longer they're on.
- Time it. A few minutes at first, working up over sessions. Take clamps off after about 15 to 20 minutes, or right away at any numbness or sharp pain. Never sleep in them.
- Take them off slowly, one at a time. The most intense part: sensation rushes back all at once. Breathe through it and soothe with a warm palm or mouth, or time it for the moment just before you come.
Comparing clamp styles? Our guide to the best nipple clamps breaks them all down.
Vibrating and app-controlled clamps
A buzz on top of the pinch, with no hands needed. Start on the lowest vibration and let the pressure do the work at first. Want a partner on the controls? The Lovense Gemini Vibrating Nipple Clamps ($94.95) are app-controlled, so you can hand over the phone. Want lots of settings? The Nipple Play Rechargeable Nipplettes ($70.95) have 12 vibration functions and fully adjustable clamps.
Weighted, chained and clover clamps
With a chain, every move becomes a tug. With clover clamps, the harder the pull, the harder they grip. Add weights only once you know you love a strong pull, and agree on a safeword before anyone touches the chain. More in our BDSM toys and bondage gear.
Wands, suction and licking toys on nipples
A wand's broad head on the chest, over a thin shirt at first, sends a deep rumble into the nipples. The Magic Wand Mini Rechargeable ($96.95) has a soft silicone head on a flexible neck and three intensity levels. More in our wand vibrators.
Licking and suction toys made for the body work on nipples too. For the basics, read how to use a rose toy, or browse our clit suckers. The Gender X Body Kisses ($99.95) gives 7 speeds of suction to whatever erogenous zone you hold it against, nipples included. For pumps, the Master Series 3-Way Nipple & Clit Pump System ($79.95) works both nipples and the clit at once (two nipple cylinders, one clit cylinder, a single trigger pump), and the Blush Temptasia Pump System ($65.95) adds a pressure gauge. Same rules as suckers: gentle start, short sessions, release at any pinching or numbness.
A 20-minute nipple orgasm session plan
Run it alone or let a partner lead. Your body sets the real pace.
| Stage | Time | What to do |
|---|---|---|
| Set the mood | 0 to 2 min | Warm room, lube out, slow breathing |
| Whole-chest warm-up | 2 to 5 min | Sweeping strokes over the chest; skip the nipples |
| Areola tease | 5 to 8 min | Wet fingertip circles, light brushes over the tip |
| Build | 8 to 12 min | Flicks, rolls, then pinch and hold; find your pressure number |
| Hands-free | 12 to 15 min | Suckers or vibrating clamps on; hands or a partner's mouth roam |
| Edge | 15 to 18 min | Back off to light circles when close, then build again |
| The finish | 18 to 20 min | Steady rhythm; take clamps off at the peak, or add a light touch below |
Not working by minute 12? Don't push harder. Go back a stage and slow down. Rushing kills nipplegasms.
Nipple play safety
- No clamps or suction on broken, irritated or sore skin. Wait until it heals.
- Start loose and short, then build over sessions.
- Respect the time limit. Clamps, suckers and pumps come off after about 15 to 20 minutes, or immediately at any numbness, sharp pain or discoloration. Never sleep in them.
- Expect the rush when they come off. Pain or numbness that doesn't fade isn't normal: talk to your doctor.
- Piercings: no clamps, suckers or pumps on fresh piercings.
- Magnets: with a pacemaker or other implanted device, skip magnetic clamps and talk to your doctor.
- Pregnant or breastfeeding? Talk to your doctor before using clamps, suction or pumps.
- Keep ice moving, never parked on one spot.
- Lube rules. Water-based works with any toy and any condom. Silicone-based can break down silicone toys: test a hidden spot or stick to water-based. Oil ruins latex condoms and soft toys.
- Mouths and STIs. Herpes spreads through skin-to-skin contact, mouth to nipple included, and can pass even when no sore shows. Keep mouths off nipples during a cold sore until it heals.
- Clean toys every time: mild soap, warm water, then a full air-dry.
- Sharing: wash toys between partners, and wash anything that's been near an ass before it goes anywhere else.
- Consent: a stop word or signal, check-ins, and an enthusiastic yes before teeth, clamps or chains.
Stock up on water-based glide in our lube collection.
Why can't I have a nipple orgasm?
Nothing is wrong with you. Nipple sensitivity varies a lot between people, and for some it varies across the month. Some feel almost nothing; for others light touch tickles or hurts. Try these:
- Slow down. The classic mistake is too hard, too fast. Double the warm-up.
- Change the pressure. Light touch does nothing? Go firmer: pinches, pulls, suction. Firm touch hurts? Go lighter: breath, feathers, a tongue tip.
- Get turned on first. Try nipple play halfway through a session instead of at the start.
- Use a toy. Hands tire. A sucker or vibrating clamp stays steady as long as you want.
- Pair it with what already works. Play with your nipples every time you masturbate, especially as you come. Over weeks, some people feel the connection grow.
- Stop chasing. Watching for an orgasm is a great way not to have one. Aim for "this feels amazing."
- Accept your answer. If you've given it a fair try and it still does nothing, or you just don't like it, that's fine. Some people's nipples just turn the heat down, and that's normal.
The best nipple toys for nipple orgasms
Nine toys, nine jobs. Here's what each one does best.
| Pick | Best for | Price |
|---|---|---|
| 10x Rotating Nipple Suckers | Hands-free suction plus motion | $79.95 |
| Cloud 9 Naughty Nips | First vibrating clamps | $34.95 |
| Lovense Gemini | App-controlled vibrating clamps | $94.95 |
| Master Series Viper | First suckers, no batteries | $13.95 |
| Size Matters Max-Twist | Dial-in suction | $30.95 |
| Edge Tuggable Clover | Tugging and kink | $44.95 |
| Sex & Mischief Chained | Adjustable starter clamps | $13.95 |
| Shots Ouch Magnetic Pin | A tight magnetic squeeze | $27.95 |
| Rose Tongue Clit & Nipple Tickler | A licking tease | from $29.95 |
1. 10x Rotating Nipple Suckers: hands-free suction that moves
Suction holds them on, then soft nubs rotate against your nipples: the drawn-in pull and a circling massage at once. Squeeze, place, let go. Then keep the top button held down for 3 seconds to get them spinning, and press it repeatedly to step through 10 patterns. Unlike fingers, they never tire, so the rhythm never breaks.
Two sets of attachments: longer nubs that work the areola and the nipple's sides, shorter ones for the tip. 3-inch cup opening, silicone and ABS, USB rechargeable, water-based lube only. IPX5 splash-proof, so no bath. $79.95.
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2. Cloud 9 Naughty Nips Vibrating Nipple Clamps: the squeeze and the buzz
Small, flexible clamps that vibrate, so you get the pinch and the buzz at once. Squeeze the sides to open one and let it close on your nipple. There are nine vibration modes, gentle through intense. USB rechargeable and IPX6, so rinse them but never submerge them. $34.95.
3. Lovense Gemini Vibrating Nipple Clamps: hand over the controls
App-controlled vibrating clamps with a motor in each and a grip you adjust with a screw (heads up: tightening the screw loosens the grip). The buzz runs from weak to super-powerful, with sound-activated vibration and music sync in the app. Give your partner the phone. Bra clip and necklace attachment included, IPX6 splash-resistant, USB rechargeable, 1.5 to 2 hours of use. $94.95.
4. Master Series Viper Nipple Suckers: the easiest start
Squeeze the bulb, set it over your nipple, release, and the vacuum draws the nipple and areola in snug. No batteries, nothing to learn, and at about 1 inch wide they're small and simple. Listed as TPE or TPR, both porous: after every use, soap and warm water, then let them dry completely. Ease them off gently, and remove at any numbness or discoloration. $13.95.
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5. Size Matters Max-Twist Nipple Suckers: suction you dial in
Hold the base flat against your nipple until it seals, then twist the cap to pull suction, from a soft tug to an intense draw. Twist back to release the seal gently. ABS plastic, two per box; each is 4 inches long, and the opening is 1.17 inches across inside. $30.95.
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6. Edge Tuggable Clover Nipple Clamps: pull harder, they bite harder
Clover clamps run on tension: a gentle tug means a pinch, a real one means a bite. Textured silicone tips hold on, and O-rings plus connection rings let you connect them, work them into rope play or add weights. Iron and zinc alloy with silicone tips. They're intense, so keep first sessions short, agree on a safeword first, and take them off slowly. $44.95.
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7. Sex & Mischief Chained Nipple Clamps: adjustable starter clamps
Thumb screws set each pinch separately, from whisper to firm, an easy way to learn your pressure number. A 13-inch chain between them makes every tug part of the play. Nickel-free metal, coated tips, 1.1 ounces. $13.95.
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8. Shots Ouch Magnetic Pin Nipple Clamps: for nipples that love it tight
Two magnetic ends grip each nipple from opposite sides, tight. That's a firm grip from the start, so they suit nipples that already love pressure, not a first clamp. Strong magnets don't belong near a pacemaker or other implanted device: if you have one, skip these and talk to your doctor. Aluminum and waterproof, and you can warm them in water for temperature play (test on your wrist first, and never hot or frozen). $27.95.
Get the Ouch Magnetic Clamps here.
9. AdultLuxe Rose Tongue Clit & Nipple Tickler: a licking tease
The petals hide a fluttering tongue and 10 licking patterns that work your clit or your nipples, minus the tired jaw. Tease your nipples, then move it down, where a thrusting dildo on a flexible cord waits. Silicone and ABS, magnetic charging, and IPX7, so the bath is fine. From $29.95. Want more roses? See our best rose toys guide and the rose toys collection.
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Nipple orgasm FAQ
What is a nipple orgasm?
A nipple orgasm, or nipplegasm, is an orgasm triggered mainly by stimulating the nipples and breasts, with little or no genital touch. Some people can learn to have them and many never do, but nipple play builds arousal either way.
Are nipple orgasms real?
Yes. Some people do come from nipple play alone, though nobody has a good number for how many. A small 2011 brain-imaging study of 11 women in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found nipple stimulation activated the genital region of the brain's sensory map as well as the chest region. It doesn't prove anything about everyone, but it's a clue.
Can men have nipple orgasms?
Yes, some men can. Male nipples have the same kind of nerve wiring as anyone else's. In a 2006 survey of 301 undergraduates in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 51.7% of men said nipple stimulation caused or enhanced their arousal. Start by pinching and rolling while you stroke your cock, then let the nipples carry more of the build.
Why does it feel good when I squeeze my nipple?
Your nipples are packed with nerve endings, and in a small 2011 brain-imaging study of women in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, nipple stimulation lit up the genital region of the brain's sensory map as well as the chest. Squeezing adds pressure, then release, and that contrast is half the fun.
What happens when nipples are stimulated?
Usually the nipple tightens and stands up, the areola puckers, and the area gets more sensitive. For most people arousal builds elsewhere too: in a 2006 survey by Levin and Meston in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 81.5% of women and 51.7% of men said nipple stimulation caused or enhanced their sexual arousal. For about 7% it decreased arousal, which is why checking in matters.
How long does it take to have a nipple orgasm?
There's no set time, and no study gives one. Give each session plenty of unhurried time, and expect learning it to take several sessions, if it happens at all. Rushing is the most common reason it doesn't work, so treat our 20-minute plan as a script, not a deadline.
Can nipples be part of sex with a partner?
Absolutely. Nipple play is great foreplay and works during sex too: reach up in cowgirl, reach around in doggy or spooning, or add hands-free suckers or vibrating clamps. Ask your partner what pressure they like, and check in before teeth or clamps.
What does a nipple orgasm feel like?
It varies. Some people describe a warm, tingling wave centered in the chest. Others feel arousal build in the nipples until it spills into a full orgasm with the same pulsing finish as genital play. Some find it softer than a clit or cock orgasm.
Can you have an orgasm from nipple sucking alone?
Some people can. Sucking combines suction, wet heat and a moving tongue, so a lot is happening at once. The trick is consistency: once your partner finds a rhythm that works, they should keep it steady instead of switching moves.
What are the best nipple toys for beginners?
Start with squeeze-on suckers like the Master Series Viper ($13.95), which need no batteries, or the Sex & Mischief Chained Nipple Clamps ($13.95), whose thumb screws let you set each pinch. When you want vibration, the Cloud 9 Naughty Nips ($34.95) have nine modes from gentle to intense.
How long should you leave nipple clamps on?
Begin with just a few minutes, and add time over later sessions. Take clamps off after about 15 to 20 minutes, or right away at any numbness or sharp pain, and never sleep in them. Remove them slowly, one at a time, and expect a rush of sensation as they come off.
Is it normal not to like nipple play?
Completely normal. Sensitivity varies a lot between people, and in the 2006 Levin and Meston survey about 7% said nipple stimulation decreased their arousal. If gentle and firmer play both do nothing for you, your body simply has other favorite spots.
Your nipples, your pace
A nipple orgasm is real, learnable for some and a bonus when it happens. Warm up the whole chest, find your pressure number, keep a steady rhythm, and let toys take over when your hands tire. Even if your nipples never take you all the way, great nipple play makes the rest of sex hotter.
Ready to play? Shop our nipple clamps and suckers, read our guide to the best nipple clamps, or browse sex toys for women for something to finish with.
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