The best strap-on is the one that fits two things: your body and your dildo. For most people that means an adjustable harness with a ring the dildo's base can't slip through, and if you'd rather skip the matching game, the Vedo Strapped kit ($69.95) puts a vibrating silicone dildo, a one-size harness and a remote in a single box. A strap-on, in one line: a dildo you wear at your hips in a harness, or a strapless toy with a bulb the wearer holds inside instead.
Below are twelve picks, one job each: kit, harness, plus-size, wearers with a penis, panty style, thigh, first dildo, realistic dildo, fantasy dildo, strapless, double-ended and hollow. Every waist range, ring size, length and width comes from that product's own listing, and the tables answer the two questions every strap-on shopper has. Will this harness fit me? Will this dildo fit this harness?
It's written for every body and every pairing: wearers with a pussy or a cock, partners taking it in the pussy or the ass. This page is for choosing. For the doing, read the strap-on basics in our how to use a dildo guide, and for anal, our pegging guide. The whole shelf lives in strap-ons and harnesses.
What’s in this guide
- Quick comparison
- How we chose
- Types of strap-ons
- Harness styles and fit
- Ring size chart: which dildos fit which harness
- The 12 best strap-ons of 2026
- Strap-ons for wearers with a penis
- Vibrating and double-ended strap-ons
- Choosing your first strap-on
- Care, lube and safety
- Strap-on FAQ
- More strap-on guides
Quick comparison
Fit is the harness's listed range; size is the dildo or shaft as its listing measures it. Prices are as listed today.
| Pick | Best for | Type | Fit or size | Price |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Vedo Strapped | All-round kit | Vibrating dildo, harness, remote | One-size harness; dildo 7.9 in long, 1.5 in wide | $69.95 |
| Strap-On-Me Curious | Harness | Leatherette O-ring harness | Two belts, XS to M and L to XXL | $68.95 |
| Regal Empress | Plus-size bodies | Crotchless, three rings | Waist up to 64 in; rings 1.5, 1.75 and 2 in | $65.95 |
| Montero | Wearers with a penis | Faux-leather harness | Hips up to 69 in; 2 in ring included | $44.95 |
| Gender X Snuggle Up | Panty style | Lace shorts, two-motor shaft | Waist 30 to 40 in; 6 in insertable | $109.95 |
| Sportsheets Ultra Thigh Strap On | Thigh play | Neoprene band with ring | About 17 to 32 in around; 1.75 in ring | $43.95 |
| Temptasia Bellatrix | First strap-on dildo | Curved silicone dildo | 6.25 in long, 1.5 in wide | $23.95 |
| Dr. Shepherd 8 Inch | Realistic dildo | Posable silicone dildo | 7.5 in insertable, 2 in wide | $51.95 |
| Creature Cocks Orion Invader | Fantasy | Alien silicone dildo | 6 in insertable, 1.3 to 2.3 in wide | $54.95 |
| Ergo-Fit Strapless Strap-On | Strapless | Inflatable bulb, two motors | Shaft 5.6 in by 1.5 in; bulb 1.5 in, 2 in pumped | $127.95 |
| Mighty Rider | Double-ended | Strapless with clit pad | Shaft 5.2 in by 1 to 1.3 in; bulb 4 in by 1.3 in | $110.95 |
| Fantasy X-tensions Elite Hollow Strap-On | Hollow | Hollow shaft with harness | Waist 24 to 53 in; 1.3 in opening | $45.95 |
How we chose
Twelve slots, twelve different reasons to buy. Here's what a toy needed to earn one.
- In stock, for real. Every pick had stock behind it the day this guide went live, not one lonely unit.
- The listing's numbers, never ours. Waist ranges, ring diameters, lengths and widths are taken from each product's own page. Where a listing leaves a measurement out (none of the dildos gives a base size, and the hollow shaft gives no length beyond its name), we say so instead of guessing.
- Fit checked on paper. We set the listed width of each harness-ready dildo pick against every ring a harness listing describes. That's the ring size chart, so you can check a pairing before you buy.
- Silicone for anything that goes inside. Every dildo, strapless toy and hollow shaft here lists silicone as its material (one strapless pairs it with ABS plastic), and silicone cleans up with mild soap and a warm rinse.
- One job each. A first-timer, a plus-size wearer, a wearer with a penis and a couple who want no straps at all should each find a clear answer in one block.
- Honest about the method. We sell everything on this list, and we didn't run a lab. What you get is a careful read of every listing and a straight call on which toy suits which job.
Types of strap-ons
There are six ways to wear one. Choose the type first and the rest of this page gets a lot shorter.
| Type | How it works | Choose it if you | The trade-off | Picks |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Harness plus dildo | A harness with an O-ring up front; you push a separate dildo through it | Want to pick the size and swap dildos later | Two purchases, and the base has to suit the ring | Curious, Regal Empress, Montero, Bellatrix, Dr. Shepherd, Orion Invader |
| All-in-one kit | Harness and shaft sold together, often with a motor | Want one box that works the night it lands | You live with the size in the box | Vedo Strapped, Snuggle Up |
| Strapless | A bulb on one end sits inside the wearer's vagina; the shaft points out for the partner | Have a vagina and want zero straps | Needs inner-muscle grip, and depth depends on staying close | Ergo-Fit, Mighty Rider |
| Double-ended | One toy, two working ends: one for the wearer, one for the partner | Want to be filled while you fuck | The wearer's end has to fit the wearer too | Mighty Rider, Ergo-Fit |
| Hollow | A shaft with an empty core, worn over the penis in its own harness | Have a penis and want the toy doing the penetrating | The opening has to suit your size | Fantasy X-tensions |
| Thigh or body | A wide band with a ring that wraps a thigh, an arm or a pillow | Love riding, or a hip harness doesn't suit your body | Less thrusting control than a hip harness | Ultra Thigh |
Harness plus dildo is the classic and the most flexible: one harness, as many dildos as your drawer can hold. The homework is the fit between base and ring, which is what the chart is for.
Kits remove the homework. The Vedo Strapped and the Snuggle Up come with their shafts, so nothing can mismatch, but you can't trade up to a different size later without buying again.
Strapless toys need a wearer with a vagina and some grip, because your own muscles hold the bulb, not straps. You control depth by keeping your hips close to your partner; pull way back and the toy has nothing to brace against. Some people love the freedom, others find a harness steadier, and both camps are right about their own bodies. Strapless toys get more room in our best sex toys for couples guide.
Hollow strap-ons are for wearers with a penis and have their own section. Thigh harnesses swap some hip control for new angles, and they're the easy answer when riding is the plan.
Harness styles and fit
A harness that fits sits snug at the front, with the dildo's base flat against your pubic bone, so the shaft points where your hips point instead of drooping. Style decides how it sits on you. The waist range decides whether it sits on you at all.
| Harness style | How it sits | Who tends to love it | Pick |
|---|---|---|---|
| Two-strap (jock) | A waist belt plus straps that loop around the thighs | Most bodies; thigh straps stop the dildo tipping down | Curious |
| Multi-strap | Several straps you set one by one, four-way on the Montero | Wearers who want to fine-tune, or keep straps off the balls | Montero |
| Crotchless | Straps frame the front and leave the crotch open | Wearers who want their own clit or cock within reach | Regal Empress |
| Briefs, panty or shorts | Underwear with a pocket or a ring for the shaft | Anyone who wants it to feel like clothing, not gear | Snuggle Up |
| Thigh | A band around one thigh with a ring on the outside | Riding, sitting positions, bodies a hip harness doesn't suit | Ultra Thigh |
| Kit harness | Adjustable straps that arrive with a matched dildo | First-timers who want one purchase | Vedo Strapped |
Waist and hip ranges, from the listings
| Harness | Fits | How it adjusts |
|---|---|---|
| Fantasy X-tensions hollow harness | Waists 24 to 53 in | Adjustable harness, included |
| Gender X Snuggle Up | Waists 30 to 40 in | Stretchy lace shorts |
| Strap-On-Me Curious | Two belts: XS to M and L to XXL | Waist and thigh straps |
| Regal Empress | Waists up to 64 in | One size, adjustable |
| Montero | Hips up to 69 in | Four-way straps you can trim |
| Sportsheets Ultra Thigh | About 17 to 32 in around | Hook-and-loop band, 29 in before stretching |
| Vedo Strapped | One size fits most; no inches given | Adjustable straps |
Measure before you order: run a tape around your waist, then around your hips at the widest point, because listings use both. The Montero quotes hips, the Ultra Thigh quotes the limb it wraps, and the Curious uses letter sizes.
Plus-size strap-ons. The most room on this page belongs to the Montero, listed for hips as large as 69 inches, and the Regal Empress, at waists up to 64. The Curious covers bigger bodies too, with its L to XXL belt in the same box as the smaller one. No body is too much for a strap-on. Plenty of harnesses are simply cut short, and these give you the most strap.
Small strap-ons. Small means one of two things. A smaller body: the Curious's XS to M belt and the hollow harness, which starts at a 24-inch waist, sit at the snug end. A slimmer dildo: the Mighty Rider's shaft, 1 to 1.3 inches, is the slimmest on this page, and the Temptasia Bellatrix, 1.5 inches wide, is the slim, curved pick for a harness.
A fit that won't wander. Thigh straps are what stop a harness riding up and the dildo dipping down, so a style with them, like the Curious, is the steadier choice once the thrusting gets serious. Tighten until it's snug without digging in, check that the base sits flat, and check again a few minutes in, because straps settle as you move.
Ring size chart: which dildos fit which harness
Here's the rule in plain words. You feed the dildo through the ring from behind, so the shaft has to get through: its widest point needs to be narrower than the ring, or soft enough to squeeze past. Then the base has to be wider than the ring, so it stops there and stays behind it. A shaft that fills the ring snugly wobbles less than one swimming in it.
The chart sets each harness-ready dildo pick against each ring our harness listings describe. "Wider by" means the shaft has to squeeze to get through, and a firm silicone shaft may refuse.
| Harness ring, per its listing | Temptasia Bellatrix (1.5 in wide) | Dr. Shepherd 8 Inch (2 in wide) | Creature Cocks Orion Invader (1.3 to 2.3 in) |
|---|---|---|---|
| Curious: stretchy double silicone ring, listed as taking any dildo | Fits, per the harness listing | Fits, per the harness listing | Fits, per the harness listing |
| Regal Empress small ring, 1.5 in | Same width: tight squeeze | Wider by 0.5 in | Wider by 0.8 in |
| Regal Empress medium ring, 1.75 in | Passes, 0.25 in to spare | Wider by 0.25 in | Wider by 0.55 in |
| Regal Empress large ring, 2 in | Passes, 0.5 in to spare | Same width: tight squeeze | Wider by 0.3 in |
| Montero, 2 in ring included (its snaps take other sizes) | Passes, 0.5 in to spare | Same width: tight squeeze | Wider by 0.3 in |
| Ultra Thigh, 1.75 in nitrile ring | Passes, 0.25 in to spare | Wider by 0.25 in | Wider by 0.55 in |
What the dildo listings don't tell you: none of the three gives a base measurement. The Orion Invader's listing calls its base wide and flared; the Bellatrix and the Dr. Shepherd describe a suction-cup base; all three say they work in a harness. So when yours arrives, set the base against the ring: it should be clearly wider, and it shouldn't fold through when you push.
The smallest ring a shaft clears with room to spare gives the steadiest hold. On the Regal Empress, that's the 1.75-inch ring for the Bellatrix; the Dr. Shepherd has no ring with room to spare, so try it in the 2-inch ring and see if it squeezes through.
Kits skip this chart: the Vedo Strapped and the Snuggle Up arrive with their shafts already matched, and strapless toys need no ring at all. For more dildo shapes that ride in a harness, our best dildos guide names its harness-ready picks.
The 12 best strap-ons of 2026
1. Vedo Strapped: best strap-on kit overall
If you want one box that works the night it arrives, this is the one. The Strapped pairs a ridged silicone dildo with an adjustable one-size harness and a remote, so there's nothing to match up: no ring sizes, no base math. The dildo runs 7.9 inches long with a 1.5-inch maximum width, a friendly size for a first strap-on, with enough length that the wearer looks the part.
What earns it the top slot is the vibration. Its listing says the person wearing it feels the vibration as well, not only the person taking it, and you get 10 modes spread over 6 intensity levels, changed from the remote rather than by fumbling at your crotch mid-thrust. It's fully submersible, so the shower counts, and it charges by USB. $69.95.
2. Strap-On-Me Curious Harness: best strap-on harness
A great harness disappears: it holds the dildo where you aim it and stops being something you think about. The Curious gets there with clever sizing. The box holds two belts, one in XS to M and one in L to XXL, plus straps that adjust at both the waist and the thighs, so you can dial it in and keep the dildo pointing forward once your hips get going.
Up front is a double ring of stretchy silicone, and the listing says it takes any dildo you like, which makes this the easiest harness to build a collection around. It's leatherette: 95% polyurethane, with small amounts of nylon, nitrile and spandex. The listing calls it ideal for pegging (our pegging guide has the how-to), and the spare belt turns into a set of handcuffs, a very welcome extra. $68.95.
3. Her Royal Harness Regal Empress: best plus-size harness
Too many harnesses stop adjusting long before they should. The Regal Empress is sold as one size that fits most and goes all the way out to 64 inches at the waist, which puts it near the top of the range on this page (only the Montero lists more, measured at the hips). It's crotchless, so the straps frame you instead of covering you, and your pussy, clit or cock stays free for a hand or a vibrator while you wear it.
It also has the best ring setup here: three O-rings you swap in and out, at 1.5, 1.75 and 2 inches across, so one harness can carry a slim first dildo now and a thicker one later. Use the chart to pick the ring. Built from PVC, polyester and metal. $65.95.
4. Montero Strap-On Harness: best harness for wearers with a penis
Wearing a harness with balls of your own brings one classic problem: straps that pinch. The Montero's four-way adjustable straps are positioned to stay off the scrotum, and spare strap length can be trimmed away so nothing flaps or digs in. Its straps reach hips of up to 69 inches, the biggest number any harness here lists, and the thick faux leather looks properly tough.
It's a harness only, so bring your own dildo: snaps let it take different O-ring sizes, and a swappable 2-inch ring comes in the box. The listing suggests adding a harness cushion for steadier thrusting; the one in our vibrating section is pitched for grinding and cushioning rather than stability, so count it as a bonus for the wearer. Wearers without a penis can use it too; the strap layout is why it wins this slot. Made of 80% polyurethane and 20% metal. $44.95.
5. Gender X Snuggle Up: best panty harness
Some people want a harness that looks like gear. Others want one that feels like underwear. The Snuggle Up is a pair of stretchy lace booty shorts with garter straps and a pocket that holds the shaft, so it looks like lingerie, not equipment. It fits waists of 30 to 40 inches.
The shaft is wavy, textured silicone carrying a motor near the tip and a second near the base, each with 10 speeds you set separately from a remote you can keep or hand to your partner. It stands 7.18 inches tall with 6 inches you can take inside, it's fully submersible, and it charges by USB. The listing doesn't say how much of the vibration reaches the wearer, so we won't promise any. $109.95.
6. Sportsheets Ultra Thigh Strap On: best thigh strap-on
A thigh harness moves the dildo from your hips to your leg, which unlocks positions a hip harness can't: your partner rides your thigh while you kiss them, or you lean back and let them set the pace. The Ultra Thigh's band is neoprene, 6 inches wide and soft with plenty of stretch, and it wraps an arm, a knee or a pillow just as happily, so it also works as a hands-free mount.
The ring is reinforced nitrile, 1.75 inches across and built to hold a flared base, and the band runs 29 inches before stretching, closes with hook-and-loop and fits about 17 to 32 inches around. No dildo comes with it: the 1.5-inch Bellatrix, listed as O-ring compatible, slips through that ring, but its listing gives no base size, so check that the base sits wider than the ring before you play. The chart covers the other dildos, and our positions for bad knees guide covers riding without kneeling. $43.95.
Get the Ultra Thigh Strap On here.
7. Temptasia Bellatrix: best beginner strap-on dildo
A first strap-on dildo should be slim, curved and easy to steer. The Bellatrix ticks every box. It measures 1.5 inches across at the fattest part, runs 6.25 inches long with most of that length insertable, and its gentle curve leans toward a G-spot or a prostate, so the curve does much of the aiming for a brand-new wearer.
The suction-cup base grips smooth, flat spots like glass when you want to ride solo, and its listing says it fits an O-ring harness, so it goes from a smooth wall to your hips with you. At 1.5 inches it slides through the 1.75 and 2-inch rings in the chart, and it's the slim, curved shape our pegging guide suggests for a first time. It's silicone. $23.95.
8. Dr. Shepherd 8 Inch: best realistic dildo for a harness
If you want your strap-on to look like a cock, this is the realistic dildo to wear. Dr. Shepherd is 8 inches long, 7.5 inches insertable and 2 inches wide: big enough to feel full, short of extreme. Its posable shaft is the reason it made the list. Bend it to the angle your two bodies need, which matters in a harness, where your hips set the direction and a fixed curve can miss.
The suction-cup base holds tight on smooth surfaces for solo play, and the listing says it's harness compatible. At 2 inches it's a tight squeeze for a 2-inch ring and too wide for smaller ones, so the Curious's stretchy ring is its easiest partner. $51.95. For something slimmer with a finish, the Strap-On-Me Cum Squirting Dildo is 7.7 inches long, 1.4 inches across and works in a harness: load its 30 ml syringe with water-based lube or warm water, trim its tube to suit, and you decide when it lets go, for $89.95. More shapes are in our realistic dildos collection.
9. Creature Cocks Orion Invader: best fantasy strap-on dildo
Strap on an alien and the whole night gets more playful. The Orion Invader's shaft is ribbed and veined along its length, with a curved tip that hooks toward a G-spot or a prostate. It runs from 1.3 to 2.3 inches in width, with 6 inches insertable and 7.25 overall, and that texture drags on every stroke, which is the entire point of a fantasy shape.
Its wide, flared base carries a suction cup and, per the listing, works in a harness, pegging included, as long as you go slow with plenty of lube and stop at any sharp pain. The 2.3-inch widest point is wider than every fixed ring in our chart, so pair it with a stretchy ring like the Curious's, and since it's silicone, use water-based lube. $54.95. For more to take, the Hades Silicone Dildo has a flanged base that fits a harness and comes in two sizes: Medium, with 7 inches insertable and 1.3 to 2.3 inches of width, at $37.95, or Large, with 8 inches insertable and 1.6 to 2.6 inches, at $47.95. The rest of the bestiary is in fantasy dildos.
10. Ergo-Fit Strapless Strap-On: best strapless strap-on
A strapless strap-on skips the harness entirely: one end is a bulb that sits inside the wearer's vagina, the other is the shaft your partner takes. The usual catch is fit, because a bulb too small for you is a bulb you fight to keep. The Ergo-Fit answers that cleverly: you pump the bulb up to your size with the shaft's inflation button or the remote, from 1.5 inches across to 2. The listing says your Kegel muscles do the holding, and you keep depth in check by staying close to your partner.
Both of you get vibration: two motors work the wearer and the partner together, with seven patterns at three strengths, and a textured pad sits against the wearer's clit. The shaft is swirl-textured and gently curved, 5.6 inches insertable and 1.5 inches wide, and the bulb takes 4.5 inches. One wireless remote runs the motors and the inflation. It's rated IPX5, so a rinse under the tap is fine but a soak is not; it charges by USB, it's silicone, and the listing asks for water-based lube only. $127.95.
Get the Ergo-Fit Strapless Strap-On here.
11. Mighty Rider: best double-ended strap-on
Double-ended means both of you have something inside. The Mighty Rider gives the wearer a bulb, 4 inches insertable and 1.3 inches wide, which you hold in to keep the shaft steady, and gives your partner a gently curved shaft, 5.2 inches insertable and 1 to 1.3 inches wide, angled toward the G-spot. It's the slimmest shaft on this page, and with no straps you control depth by keeping your hips close to your partner.
The wearer's reward is a textured pad that rubs and vibrates against your clit every time you thrust, driven by two motors with three intensities and seven patterns. Controls sit on the shaft's base and on a wireless remote, so whoever has a free hand can drive, and the toy and remote charge from one USB cable. IPX7 waterproof, silicone, water-based lube only. $110.95.
12. Fantasy X-tensions Elite Hollow Strap-On: best hollow strap-on
A hollow strap-on is a shaft with an empty core: you slide your penis inside, fasten the harness, and the toy does the penetrating. This one is dual-density silicone, softer at the head and flexible where it meets your body, with a 1.3-inch opening. Its product name calls it a 6 inch; the listing gives no other shaft measurements, so we won't add any.
The harness is included, sized for waists of 24 to 53 inches, one of the widest spreads here. Because the shaft is silicone, keep the lube water-based and give it a toy-cleaner wash; the harness gets washed by hand, then everything air-dries completely. Snug is the right fit, and check in with each other as you go, since comfort counts on both sides of it. $45.95. For sleeves and extensions that fit over the penis, see our penis sleeves guide.
Get the Fantasy X-tensions Elite Hollow Strap-On here.
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Strap-ons for wearers with a penis
Searches for a strap-on for men mean two different things, so here are both. If you have a penis and want to wear one, you have three routes.
- A harness and a dildo. The dildo's base rests on your pubic bone above your own cock, so the thing to avoid is straps running tight across your balls. The Montero's four-way straps are placed to stay off the scrotum and trim to fit, and it takes any harness-ready dildo whose width suits its ring. This route gives you the widest choice of shapes and sizes.
- A hollow strap-on. Your penis goes inside the shaft, and a harness anchors the whole thing at your hips. The Fantasy X-tensions Elite has a 1.3-inch opening and a harness sized for waists of 24 to 53 inches. Check that a 1.3-inch opening suits you before you order.
- An extension or sleeve. A sleeve is worn on the penis itself and moves with it, rather than being held at the hips by a harness. If that's closer to what you want, the penis sleeves and extenders collection has the range.
Choosing between them comes down to two questions: do you want your penis inside the toy or free, and do you want the toy anchored by straps or worn directly on you? Inside and anchored is the hollow strap-on. Free and anchored is a harness. Inside and worn directly is a sleeve.
Now the other meaning. If you're a man who wants to be on the receiving end, that's pegging, and it starts with a slim, curved dildo like the Bellatrix in a harness like the Curious. Our pegging guide walks you through the first time.
Vibrating and double-ended strap-ons
The receiver usually gets the best of a strap-on. The view is great, but the wearer deserves more than the view. Here are the ways to share the pleasure.
- A kit with a motor. The Vedo Strapped listing says the wearer feels its vibration too. The Vedo Diki vibrating kit is the other kit to know, though its listing doesn't say whether the wearer feels its two motors: a silicone dildo, 7.5 inches overall and 1.5 inches wide, with a pleather one-size harness, a remote, a travel lock and a suction base for solo nights. It's waterproof and submersible, and a charge of about 90 minutes gives roughly 90 minutes of play. $84.95.
- A strapless with motors. The Ergo-Fit's two motors buzz the wearer as well as the partner, and the Mighty Rider's clit pad vibrates against the wearer while the shaft works on your partner. The Strap U strapless strap-on, worn by inserting its bulb and holding the shaft steady without straps, goes further with three motors you run alone or together: the wearer gets 10 settings in the bulb plus 10 licking patterns at the clit, the partner's shaft has 10 more, and a wireless remote runs the lot. Its shaft is 5.5 inches insertable and 1.4 inches wide. It's rated IPX6, so showers yes, submerging no. $94.95.
- A double-ended toy. Searches for a double-sided, double-ended or double strap-on usually mean exactly this: a toy with one end in the wearer and one in the partner. Every strapless pick here works that way. The Mighty Rider takes the double-ended slot for its slim shaft.
- A grinding cushion. The Lippi by Banana Pants is soft silicone that sits behind your dildo's base inside the harness, with a faux clit and full lips to grind on and a close-fitting slit designed with bottom growth in mind. A cavity on top holds a bullet vibrator (not included) or a fingertip, and its slightly tacky back clings to the dildo base. The listing gives no dimensions. $41.95.
- An open crotch. A crotchless harness leaves your own clit or cock free, so a hand, your partner's fingers or a small vibrator can get in there while you thrust.
Choosing your first strap-on
Three decisions, in this order: harness or strapless, kit or build your own, and size. Strapless needs a vagina and some grip, so a harness is the easier first step for most people.
Kit or harness plus dildo?
- Buy a kit if you want one box, no fit math and a motor. The Vedo Strapped is the all-rounder at $69.95.
- Build your own if you want to choose size, shape and firmness, or expect to size up. A harness lasts through many dildos.
- What you give up with a kit: choice. You get the dildo in the box, and its width is the width.
The size ladder
Width matters more than length, because depth is something you control and width isn't. Start on rung 1 and climb when you both want more. The top row is a strapless shaft, for wearers who skip the harness.
| Rung | Dildo or shaft | Widest point | Insertable length |
|---|---|---|---|
| Strapless only | Mighty Rider shaft | 1 to 1.3 in | 5.2 in |
| 1 | Temptasia Bellatrix | 1.5 in | Most of its 6.25 in |
| 1 | Vedo Strapped dildo | 1.5 in | 7.9 in long; no insertable figure listed |
| 1 | Ergo-Fit shaft (strapless) | 1.5 in | 5.6 in |
| 2 | Dr. Shepherd 8 Inch | 2 in | 7.5 in |
| 3 | Creature Cocks Orion Invader | 1.3 to 2.3 in | 6 in |
For a small strap-on that's easy on a first night, the Bellatrix is where we'd start: 1.5 inches wide, curved, and listed as O-ring compatible.
What it costs to start
A working setup can be as simple as the Bellatrix at $23.95 in the Curious at $68.95, a hip harness whose stretchy ring its listing says takes any dildo. The Ultra Thigh is $43.95, though its ring is made for flared bases and the Bellatrix listing gives no base size, so check the fit when it arrives. The Vedo Strapped kit is $69.95 with vibration included, and of the strapless picks, the Mighty Rider is $110.95 and the Ergo-Fit $127.95.
Talk before the first thrust
Agree on a stop word, or a tap, before anything goes in. Let the person receiving set the pace for the first few minutes, and check in out loud: slower, deeper, more lube, stay right there. For wearing, angles and moving from the hips, the strap-on basics in our how to use a dildo guide cover the details. If the first time is anal, read the pegging guide before you buy.
Care, lube and safety
Lube
- Water-based is the default. It's safe with every toy material and with condoms. Several listings here, including the Ergo-Fit, the Mighty Rider and the hollow strap-on, insist on water-based.
- Silicone lube can wreck the surface of a silicone toy. Every dildo and shaft on this page is silicone, so stick to water-based, or patch-test silicone lube on a hidden spot first.
- Oil breaks down latex condoms and soft materials, so leave it out of strap-on play.
Stock up from our lube collection, and use more than you think you need. Reapply whenever the glide fades.
Water and charging
The Vedo Strapped and the Snuggle Up are fully submersible, and the Mighty Rider is IPX7 waterproof. The Ergo-Fit is IPX5: showers and rinsing are fine, soaking isn't. The plain dildos (Bellatrix, Dr. Shepherd, Orion Invader) have no motor, so a sudsy wash in warm water, or a squirt of toy cleaner, is all they need. Dry everything fully before you put it away, and keep charging ports dry.
Harness care by material
Only one harness listing on this page spells out cleaning, so here's what each is made of and the general care that suits it.
| Harness | Material, per the listing | Care |
|---|---|---|
| Strap-On-Me Curious | Leatherette: 95% polyurethane, plus nylon, nitrile and spandex | Wipe it over with a damp, lightly soaped cloth; lay flat to air-dry |
| Montero | Faux leather: polyurethane and metal | Spot clean; dry fully before storing; check snaps |
| Regal Empress | PVC, polyester and metal | Spot clean; dry fully; check buckles and rings |
| Sportsheets Ultra Thigh | Neoprene, nitrile ring, hook-and-loop | Spot clean; keep the hook-and-loop free of lint |
| Gender X Snuggle Up | Stretch lace shorts | Take the shaft out first; spot clean; dry fully |
| Fantasy X-tensions hollow harness | Adjustable harness | The listing says hand-wash and dry fully |
Whatever the material, take the dildo out and wash it on its own, give the harness time to air out fully before it goes in a drawer, and retire any strap or buckle that's cracking or stretched out.
Sharing, condoms and STIs
STIs can pass from one person to another on a shared toy. Put a fresh condom on the dildo for each partner and each hole, or wash it in between. Our guide to condoms on sex toys shows how to fit one.
Anal rules
- Flared base or a harness ring, always. Anything going in an ass needs a base that stays outside. The Orion Invader's listing calls its base flared, and a harness ring holds the base outside too. More options are in our flared base dildos and plugs.
- Lots of lube, slow, never forced. Start slimmer than you think, warm up first, and stop at any sharp pain.
- Ass to pussy or mouth means a wash first. Clean the toy or change the condom before it goes anywhere else.
- Prep is simple. A bathroom trip and a shower beforehand are enough for most people; some like to rinse first, and it's optional.
Pain that doesn't fade, bleeding or numbness that lingers means stop and talk to your doctor. If anything ever gets stuck inside the rectum, get medical help right away. For positions and technique, the pegging guide linked above has the full how-to.
Strap-on FAQ
What is the best strap-on for beginners?
For most first-timers, either a kit or a slim dildo in an adjustable harness. The Vedo Strapped ($69.95) puts a 1.5-inch-wide silicone dildo, a one-size harness and a remote in one box, with nothing to match. To build your own, put the 1.5-inch-wide Temptasia Bellatrix ($23.95) in the Strap-On-Me Curious harness ($68.95) and swap dildos as you grow. If your first time is anal, start with our pegging guide.
What is the best strap-on harness?
The Strap-On-Me Curious suits the most people: two belts in the box (XS to M and L to XXL), straps that adjust at the waist and thighs, and a stretchy double silicone ring its listing says takes any dildo. The thigh straps are what keep a harness from slipping. For wearers with a penis, the Montero keeps its straps off the scrotum, and the plus-size answer below covers bigger bodies.
Are strapless strap-ons any good?
Yes, if you have a vagina and love being filled while you thrust. The bulb sits inside the wearer, held by your own muscles, and the shaft points out for your partner, with no straps at all. The Ergo-Fit's bulb inflates to your size, and both it and the Mighty Rider carry a textured pad for the wearer's clit. You control depth by staying close to your partner, and some bodies will always prefer a harness, so treat strapless as a choice, not an upgrade.
What size dildo should I use for a strap-on?
Start slimmer than you think, around 1.5 inches wide, and choose by width before length, because the receiver can ask for less depth but can't shrink the girth. The Bellatrix and the Vedo Strapped dildo are both 1.5 inches; the Mighty Rider's shaft is 1 to 1.3. Size up gradually: the Dr. Shepherd is 2 inches wide and the Orion Invader reaches 2.3. Then check that the width suits your harness ring.
Will any dildo fit a strap-on harness?
No. In an O-ring harness, the shaft has to pass through the ring and the base has to be wider than it, so the dildo stops and stays put. Look for harness compatibility on the listing (the Bellatrix, Dr. Shepherd and Orion Invader all state it), then compare the dildo's widest point with the ring in our ring size chart. A harness with swappable rings widens your options.
What is the best strap-on harness for plus-size bodies?
The Regal Empress, which reaches 64 inches at the waist and has three ring sizes, and the Montero, whose straps reach hips of up to 69 inches. The Curious also ships with an L to XXL belt alongside its smaller one. Measure both your waist and your hips before you order, because listings use both, and choose the harness whose range puts you comfortably in the middle rather than at the very end.
What is a hollow strap-on, and is it a strap-on for men?
A hollow strap-on is a shaft with an empty core that you slide your penis into, held at your hips by its own harness, so the toy does the penetrating. The Fantasy X-tensions Elite has a 1.3-inch opening and a harness for 24 to 53 inch waists. It's one kind of strap-on for men. The other kind is for men receiving, which is pegging, and that starts with a slim dildo in a harness.
What is the best double-ended strap-on?
The Mighty Rider. One end is a bulb the wearer holds inside (4 inches insertable, 1.3 inches wide), the other is a gently curved shaft for the partner (5.2 inches insertable, 1 to 1.3 inches wide), with a textured clit pad for the wearer and two motors on a wireless remote. Every strapless strap-on is double-ended in this sense, and the Mighty Rider has the slimmest shaft of them.
Can the person wearing a vibrating strap-on feel it?
With the right toy, yes. The Vedo Strapped listing says the wearer feels its vibration too. The Ergo-Fit's two motors work the wearer and the partner together, and the Mighty Rider's pad vibrates against the wearer's clit. With a plain dildo in a harness, add a grinding cushion with a bullet pocket behind the base, or wear a crotchless harness and bring a hand or a small vibrator into it.
Leather, nylon or neoprene: which harness material is best?
Go by what each listing says: no harness listing on this page gives real leather as its material. The Montero is faux leather (polyurethane and metal), the Curious is leatherette (mostly polyurethane, with a little nylon, nitrile and spandex), the Ultra Thigh is soft, stretchy neoprene, and the Snuggle Up is stretch lace. The Regal Empress is PVC, polyester and metal, while the Vedo Strapped and hollow strap-on harnesses list no material.
How do you clean a strap-on harness?
Take the dildo out and wash it on its own, then wipe the harness over with a damp, lightly soaped cloth, and give it time to air out fully before you put it away. Where a listing gives its own care steps, follow those; the hollow strap-on's says to hand-wash its harness and dry it fully. Check straps, buckles and rings while you're at it, and replace anything cracked or stretched.
How does a strap-on order ship?
Every order ships discreetly from the US, within 1 business day, and usually arrives in 4 to 7 business days. We ship to US addresses only, and orders of $75 and up ship free. A harness and a dildo ordered together, like the Curious ($68.95) with the Bellatrix ($23.95), clear that line on their own.
More strap-on guides
The short version: pick the type first, measure your waist and hips, match your dildo's width to your ring, and start slimmer than your ego suggests. Then keep reading.
- Pegging 101: first-time steps, positions and the harness and dildo picks for anal.
- The 10 Best Dildos: more harness-ready dildos, with materials and sizes.
Every harness, kit and strapless toy we carry is in strap-ons and harnesses.
Every order ships discreetly from the US, free over $75.
Maya Sterling, AdultLuxe editorial. Read our editorial standards.