Prostate Massagers

How a prostate massager works

The prostate sits a few inches inside the rectum, toward the front of the body. A massager's curve presses it from inside, and on many designs a tab or arm presses the perineum, the skin between the scrotum and anus, from outside. Many people describe a fuller, slower-building orgasm than penile stimulation alone, though it often takes a few sessions to find.

Which prostate massager is right for you?

• Hands-free classics. Classic Aneros massagers have no motor: your own muscle contractions rock them against the prostate. The slim Aneros MGX Syn Trident is our pick for beginners, the Progasm Classic is the big one for experienced users, and the Helix Syn V adds optional vibration.
• Vibrating massagers. A motor in the tip, often a second one for the perineum, and often a remote or app. The Lovense Edge 2 has an adjustable arm and app control; the Anal Fantasy Elite runs 9 functions from a wireless remote.
• Toys that move. The Playboy Come Hither beckons from the tip, the Gender X True Blue thrusts, and the Ass-Gasm Pro P-Spot Milker adds a rocking perineum base and a built-in cock ring. The Playboy Pleasure Pleaser taps and warms up to 109°F.
• Stainless steel. The Njoy Prostate Pfun Plug is 316-grade stainless steel: smooth and firm, for precise pressure and temperature play. It may contain traces of nickel, so skip it if you're allergic.

How to choose

• Size. Start slim. The MGX tapers from a 1-inch ridge to a 0.78-inch tip, and most massagers here are about 1 to 1.4 inches wide.
• Base. Use only toys with a flared base, handle or perineum arm, so nothing can slip in too far.
• Powered or not. Hands-free Aneros toys reward patience and practice; vibrating and moving toys deliver sensation right away.
• Control. A remote or app lets a partner take over, or lets you stay still and relaxed while you play.

How to use a prostate massager

1. Use the bathroom and shower first. Feeling clean makes it easier to relax.
2. Use plenty of thick, water-based lube on the toy and on you.
3. Lie on your side with your knees drawn up, or on your back, and insert slowly with the tip angled toward your belly button.
4. Let it settle for a few minutes before turning anything on. With an Aneros, gently squeeze and relax the muscles you'd use to stop peeing to rock it.
5. Go slowly and stop if anything hurts. Pressure is normal; pain isn't.

Safety and care

• Lube. Use water-based lube with silicone toys; steel works with any lube.
• Cleaning. Wash before and after with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner. Stainless steel can be boiled; never boil anything with a motor. Splash-proof toys, like the Nexus Revo Twist, get a careful rinse or wipe, never a soak, and keep charging ports dry.
• One hole at a time. Never move a toy from anal to vaginal use without washing it thoroughly first.
• Health. If you have prostatitis, hemorrhoids or an active infection, or you've had recent pelvic surgery, check with a doctor first.

Prostate massager FAQ

How do you use a prostate massager?

Lube generously, lie on your side with your knees up, and insert slowly with the tip angled toward your belly button. Let it settle, then add movement or vibration. Our prostate play guide walks through it step by step, from fingers to toys.

What does a prostate massager feel like?

Pressure first, then a deep, spreading fullness. Many people describe orgasms that build more slowly and feel more full-body, but it can take a few tries to get there.

Do prostate massagers hurt?

They shouldn't. Mild pressure and a feeling that you need to pee are normal at first; sharp pain means slow down, add lube or stop.

Can women use a prostate massager?

Without a prostate there's no P-spot to target, but some curved massagers, like the Temptasia Bellatrix, are shaped to reach the G-spot too. Wash any toy thoroughly before switching from anal to vaginal use.

Which prostate massager is best for beginners?

Our pick is the Aneros MGX Syn Trident: slim, hands-free and made of soft silicone. See all our picks in the best prostate massagers guide.

Bringing a partner in?

Our prostate play guide has a whole section on prostate play with a partner. Every order ships discreetly from the US, free over $75.