Sex Toys for Men

What are male sex toys?

Male sex toys, or sex toys for men, are toys made for the penis, balls, perineum and prostate. Some do a hand's job better: strokers grip and squeeze, while automatic strokers and blowjob machines stroke or suck on their own. Others go further, with a pump's vacuum, a cock ring's steady hold or vibration on your prostate. Plenty are made to share.

Types of sex toys for men

Strokers and pocket pussies

Strokers and pocket pussies, also called male masturbators, are soft sleeves you move by hand, lined with ridges, nubs or chambers. The Tenga Spinner Tetra's coiled core twists the sleeve around you as you stroke.

Automatic strokers

Automatic strokers stroke, suck, rotate or thrust for you. Inside the Milker Slider 18x, rows of rotating beads travel along your shaft at up to 220 RPM, with 3 speeds and 6 patterns.

Blowjob machines

Blowjob machines mimic oral sex, mostly with suction and often with vibration. The Jock 9x runs 3 suction modes and 3 vibration levels, separately or together, and its tunnel flips inside out for cleaning.

Cock rings

Cock rings sit snug at the base of the penis, often around the balls, slowing blood flow out for a firmer erection. The Trinity 10x Taint Stim adds a vibrating perineum pad, with 3 speeds and 7 patterns on a remote.

Penis pumps

Penis pumps seal a cylinder over the penis and draw a vacuum for a fuller, firmer erection. The effect is temporary. The Pump Worx Beginner's Power Pump pairs a squeeze bulb with a one-press quick-release valve.

Penis sleeves and extenders

Penis sleeves and extenders slip over the penis to add length, girth, texture or vibration. The Size Matters 2 Inch Silicone Extension adds 2 inches in non-porous silicone, with a stretchy ball strap.

Prostate massagers

Prostate massagers are curved to reach the P-spot, a few inches inside the rectum toward the belly button. The Playboy Come Hither curls its angled tip in a beckoning motion while the shaft vibrates, with a 25-foot remote.

Ball vibrators

Ball vibrators buzz your balls and perineum, spots most strokers miss. The Trinity Vibrating Ball Sack holds your balls in a stretchy, 3-inch-deep silicone pouch, with 3 speeds, 4 patterns and an IPX7 rating.

How to choose a sex toy for men

• What you're after. Sensation (strokers, blowjob machines), firmness (cock rings), size play (pumps, sleeves) or P-spot play (prostate massagers).
• Manual or automatic. Manual strokers rely on your hand; automatic ones usually cost more but do the work.
• Material. Silicone is non-porous and easy to clean. TPE and "skin" materials like CyberSkin feel softer but are porous and need more care.
• Open or closed. Open-ended sleeves rinse through and dry fast; closed ones hold more suction but dry slower.
• Noise and discretion. No motor means no hum, and some motorized toys stay quiet, like the 46-decibel Lovense Diamo.
• Solo or partner. Vibrating cock rings and remote or app toys, like the Lovense Max 2, bring a partner in.
• Budget. Start with a simple manual stroker and upgrade once you know what you like.

How to use a male sex toy

1. Wash it before first use, and charge it fully if it's rechargeable.
2. Get warmed up first; most toys feel better once you're aroused.
3. Use plenty of water-based lube, on you and inside the sleeve.
4. Start on the lowest setting or loosest grip, and build slowly.
5. Mix up speed and pattern, or try edging: back off just before you come.

Cleaning, care and safety

• Clean after every use with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner, then dry fully. Store porous TPE toys alone, and use a condom if you share them.
• Check the water rating. Only IPX7 or submersible toys go under water; splash-proof ones, like the CRUIZR, must never be soaked or submerged.
• Lube. Water-based is safe with every material. Skip silicone lube on silicone toys, and oil on TPE or latex.
• Cock rings. Take one off after about 20 to 30 minutes, or right away if you feel pain, numbness or coldness.
• Pumps. Build pressure slowly, stop at any pain and follow the instructions. Talk to your doctor first if you have a bleeding or circulation condition or take blood thinners.
• Anal toys. Use only toys with a flared base or handle, and wash a toy (or change its condom) before it goes from anus to vagina.

Sex toys for men FAQ

What is the best sex toy for men?

It depends on what you want. For a first toy, our pick is the Tenga Spinner Tetra, and our 10 best sex toys for men guide names 10 winners, from strokers to prostate massagers.

Do men use sex toys?

Yes. Reece and colleagues' 2009 Journal of Sexual Medicine study of 1,047 US men aged 18 to 60 found 44.8% had used a vibrator during sexual activities at some point. That's before counting strokers, cock rings and pumps.

How do you use a male sex toy?

Wash it, charge it and lube up, then start on the lowest setting and build slowly. Use water-based lube in strokers, take cock rings off within 20 to 30 minutes, and use only anal toys with a flared base or handle.

How do you clean a male sex toy?

Wash it after every use with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner, then let it dry completely, inside and out. Open or remove the sleeve if you can, and only submerge toys rated IPX7 or submersible.

Do I need lube with male sex toys?

Yes for almost every stroker and sleeve, and always for anal toys. Water-based lube works with every material, including silicone and TPE. Skip silicone lube on silicone toys and oil on TPE or latex, unless the listing says otherwise.

Are male sex toys safe?

Yes, used as directed: clean them after every use, stop if anything hurts and keep cock rings to 20 to 30 minutes. Before pumping, talk to your doctor if you have a bleeding or circulation condition or take blood thinners.

Can I use male sex toys with a partner?

Absolutely. Many vibrating cock rings buzz you both during sex, remote toys let a partner take the controls, and a partner can run the Lovense Max 2 from miles away. Browse couples sex toys for more to share.

Want our top picks?

Our guides to the 10 best pocket pussies and strokers and the 8 best cock rings do the comparing for you. Every order ships discreetly from the US, free over $75.