Dildos

What is a dildo?

A dildo is a penetration toy: a shaft you use vaginally or, when it has the right base, anally. Many have no motor; others thrust, vibrate or warm up. Shapes run from realistic dildos to snakes, tentacles and aliens. Most here are silicone; a few are steel, and one wand is crystal. Use one solo, ride one hands-free or wear one in a harness.

Which dildo is right for you?

A realistic dildo follows anatomy, a fantasy dildo trades it for scales or suckers, a thrusting dildo moves on its own, and steel stays rigid. Then size: compare insertable length and the widest point, and pick smaller than you think. Then the base: a suction cup for riding, a flared or suction-cup base for anal, and a harness-compatible base for a strap-on harness.

Types of dildos

Realistic dildos

A realistic dildo is shaped like a penis, veins and all. The Dr. Julian is 9 inches overall with 7.5 insertable and a 2-inch width, plus a posable shaft. Dr. Mason (6.5 inches insertable) and Dr. Shepherd (7.5) share that posable build, a suction cup and harness compatibility. The Colours Dual Density 8 Inch wraps a soft layer over a firm core. Of the Vixen VixSkin dildos, the Mustang is slim at 1.6 inches wide; the Johnny is firm, slightly curved and veined. More realistic dildos and VixSkin dildos.

Fantasy and tentacle dildos

Fantasy dildos skip anatomy for creatures. The King Cobra is a scaled snake with a tapered head and curved neck, 1.3 to 1.8 inches across. The Octoprobe tentacle has puckers and suckers. The Orion Invader alien ends in a tip angled for the G-spot or prostate. The dinosaur Dino-dick has a mushroom head; the Dickosaur adds a tail. The Grim, Vulcan, Reaper and Hades stack ridges and grooves; the Nymphoid Ovipositor passes up to 3 soft eggs. More fantasy dildos.

Thrusting and vibrating dildos

A thrusting dildo moves on its own. The Master Series 8X Auto Pounder runs from a grippy handle: a 1-inch thrust, 3 thrusting speeds and 8 vibration modes. The Master Series 10x thrusting dildo travels 2.5 inches per stroke, with 3 thrusting speeds plus vibration. The King Cock Plus 6.5 Inch pairs a 1-inch piston thrust with internal warming and tip vibration. For vibration alone, the AdultLuxe Curler pairs a G-spot head with a curling clitoral arm. More thrusting dildos.

Double and dual-ended dildos

The Master Series 10x dual-ended dildo is a vibrating crescent with a smaller end and a larger one. The bendable Dorcel Orgasmic Double Do thrusts from one head and vibrates from the other. The Together Vibe Duo, 17.5 inches long, lets two partners take one end each, face to face. The 13-inch Peacemaker is realistic at one end, hooked at the other. The 2 Become 1 strapless dildo stays put with a short end the wearer holds inside.

Suction-cup and riding dildos

Press a suction-cup base onto a smooth, clean, flat surface, check the grip, and sink down at your own pace. Most of the realistic and fantasy dildos above have one; the Dickosaur's is shaped like clawed feet. The Randy is short and stout, about 6 inches long and over 2 inches wide. The Temptasia Bellatrix aims its curve at the G-spot or prostate (6.25 inches long, 1.5-inch diameter).

Stainless steel and crystal dildos

Searching for a glass dildo? Ours are stainless steel, plus one crystal wand. The curved Njoy Pure Wand is 316-grade steel, 1.5 inches in diameter, aimed at the G-spot or P-spot. The Njoy Fun Wand carries graduated balls for anal play along 7 insertable inches. The Le Wand Arch curves for the G-spot and the Le Wand Bow for the G-spot or P-spot; both can sit in warm or cool water for temperature play (never hot or frozen). The Le Wand Crystal G Wand is obsidian crystal, shaped by hand. More Le Wand.

Big and extra-long dildos

Huge dildo? Work up to it. The Titan Tentacle has 20 inches insertable, widening from a 1-inch tip to 2.3 inches. The Octoprobe gives 11.5 insertable inches and swells from 1 inch to 3.3. The Deep Invader tentacle offers 10.4 inches insertable, up to 2.5 wide, and a hollow shaft for up to 5 silicone eggs. For girth, the Vulcan reaches 2.8 inches across.

How to choose a dildo

• Size. Insertable length sets the depth; the widest point sets the stretch.
• Shape. Realistic, creature, angled toward the G-spot or P-spot, or textured.
• Material. Silicone and steel are non-porous; TPE is porous.
• Base. A suction cup for riding, a flared or suction-cup base for anal, or a flat base that stands, like the Johnny's.
• Firmness. Dual-density silicone gives at the surface; steel never does.
• Motor. None, or thrusting, vibration and warming in some mix.
• Harness. Choose one marked harness-compatible, like the Dr. Julian.

How to use a dildo

1. Wash it first, and charge any rechargeable toy.
2. Spread water-based lube on the toy and on you. Silicone lube can damage silicone toys.
3. Lie back, knees bent, and ease the tip in as you breathe out.
4. Stay shallow, then vary depth and angle; tilt a curved tip toward your belly for the G-spot.
5. Riding? Fix the suction cup down and lower yourself slowly.
6. Anal only with a flared or suction-cup base that stays outside. Go slowly, use plenty of lube, never force it, stop at sharp pain.
7. Partnered? Agree your limits and a stop word ahead of time; the receiver sets them and can stop play at once.

Cleaning, care and safety

• After each use, wash in soapy warm water or with a toy cleaner, then dry fully.
• Water. The 10x dual-ended dildo is IPX7, submersible up to 30 minutes; the IPX5 Auto Pounder is rinse-only. Never submerge the King Cock Plus 6.5 Inch or the longer TPE dong. No rating? Keep motors dry.
• Storage. Keep each toy apart, in its own pouch.
• Steel and crystal. Check for chips or damage before each use. Njoy's steel may contain some nickel.
• Anus to vagina? Wash the toy first, or change its condom.
• Pain, bleeding or numbness? Take the toy out; if it lingers, talk to your doctor.

Dildo FAQ

What are dildos made of?

Mostly silicone: non-porous, best with water-based lube. A few are 316-grade stainless steel, and one wand is obsidian crystal. The longer King Cock Plus combines TPE with ABS; TPE is porous, so scrub it, air-dry it completely and put a condom on it to share.

How do you use a dildo for the first time?

Choose a modest size, wash it, and use plenty of water-based lube on the toy and on you. Lie back, breathe out and let the tip in slowly. Stay shallow until you relax. Stretch is fine; sharp pain means stop.

How do you ride a dildo?

Stick a suction-cup dildo to a smooth, clean, non-porous surface such as a tiled wall or a floor, and test the grip. Add lube, then squat or kneel above it and sink down a little at a time. You control the depth and rhythm.

What size dildo should a beginner get?

A slim one. The Mustang is 1.6 inches across at most, with 6.5 inches insertable; the Bellatrix is 1.5 across; the Dickosaur is 1.75 at its widest, 6 insertable. Size up in width before length, and only once your current toy feels easy.

Can you use a dildo for anal?

It can, with a flared or suction-cup base that stays outside your body. The Mustang suits vaginal or anal play, the Bellatrix curves toward the prostate, and the Hades, Grim and Orion Invader are harness-ready for pegging. The Nymphoid isn't intended for anal play. Go slowly, use lots of lube and stop at sharp pain.

Are suction-cup dildos harness compatible?

Some are. The three Dr. dildos and most of the fantasy dildos have both a suction cup and a harness-compatible base, and the Bellatrix fits an O-ring harness. The Colours is sold for riding, not as harness-compatible. The Strap-On-Me squirting dildo is harness compatible too: fill its 30ml syringe with liquid and it squirts on your cue.

How do you clean a dildo?

After every use, lather it with mild soap under warm water, or use a toy cleaner, then let it dry completely. A motorized toy goes under water only if it's made to be submersible. Porous TPE needs a thorough wash and a condom if shared.

What's the difference between a thrusting dildo and a sex machine?

A thrusting dildo is one compact toy, like the Auto Pounder you hold by its handle. A sex machine is a bigger motorized unit that runs hands-free from a dial, remote or app. Searching for a dildo machine? Browse our sex machines.

Want our top picks?

Read The 10 Best Dildos for picks by type, or The 6 Best Thrusting Dildos & Vibrators for toys that move. Every order ships discreetly from the US, free over $75.