Hey there, if you're reading this, we are assuming you are one of the curious kind! Well, we're writing about something different this time, a subject that is not much talked about—Dormaphilia. Now, we know that might sound like a complicated word, but don't worry; we'll break it down in a way that's easy to understand. So, let's dive right in and discover what Dormaphilia is all about!
Let's start with..
What is Dormaphilia?
Dormaphilia is a term that describes a fantasy that some people have. It involves waking up to sexual activities, like receiving oral, being touched or being fucked by your partner, while still half-asleep. It's important to remember that this might not be for everyone since our interests and fantasies vary but again, it's perfectly okay if you fantasize of it. It's not harmful as long as it's consensual and safe.
Since we talked about consent, let's not forget that..
Consent is Key
One very important thing to remember when exploring Dormaphilia or any other fantasy is 'consent'. Consent basically means that both people involved in the act agree to what's happening and must feel comfortable with it. In a fantasy like Dormaphilia, it's very important to plan ahead and make sure both partners are on the same page.
We read it somewhere and would like to pen the same here. There are some people who use coloured rubber bracelets as a way to communicate their consent. We find it amazing and it sounds like a trick that might subtly do it's work.
Well, different colours of bracelets might represent different levels of comfort or activities that an individual consents to. It's a good idea to talk to your partner and come up with a system that works for both of you. Again remember, consent should always be clear, and it can be withdrawn at any time; (you still got to communicate about the withdrawal of consent with your partner though.)
Challenges in Exploring Dormaphilia
Now, let's talk about some challenges that people might face when exploring Dormaphilia and how to address them:
Clothing Choices
Sometimes, people prefer to sleep in comfortable clothes like sweats or pajamas. If your partner wants to explore Dormaphilia, you might need to find a way to gently remove their clothing without waking them up. You could try using sleepwear with easy-to-open buttons or snaps, like nightgowns or sleep shirts.
Timing
Timing is another important factor. It's not always easy to predict when both partners will be in the mood for Dormaphilia. It might happen rarely, and that's completely normal. The key is to communicate openly and be patient with each other.
Comfort and Trust
Building a sense of trust and comfort with your partner is essential. Dormaphilia requires a high level of trust, as you are vulnerable when you're asleep. Make sure you both feel safe and secure in your relationship.
After researching more on it, we've learnt that there is a study by Deehan and Bartels in 2021 that threw a new light on Dormaphilia: both men and women seem equally into it.
Also, it's not just about sleep – it often ties in with a desire for sexual submission and even masochistic fantasies as such. Turns out, when you like the idea of groping or being groped or are intrigued by the concept of CNC while you are fast asleep, you know Dormaphilia is something you have a thing for. Now, let's take it a step further and introduce some sex toys from Adult Luxe that will make your Dormaphilic experience intense and exciting!
Vibepad 2
Meet the VibePad 2, a super-soft toy designed to make your partner feel like they are being licked while they are peacefully asleep. A perfect tease for a Dormaphilia fantasy. With their permission beforehand of course, you can gently place the VibePad 2 around their groin area. The device has two waves (you'll know when you'll look); one of them being the big wave which has a tongue-like part that offers gentle "licking" sensations. Then we have a smaller wave that can warm up to a cozy 131°F which is going to keep your lover quite enticed.
With that, you can also use the remote control from up to 32.8 feet away to change the settings. Now that opens up the room for element of surprise when you're using Vibepad 2.
Lovense Ferri Panty Vibe
We want you to picture this: there is a tiny and powerful magnetic panty vibrator that can be controlled from anywhere in the world. By anywhere, we mean it in its literal sense. That is what the Lovense Ferri Panty Vibe is known for! This one is super easy to stay in place especially when your partner is not sleeping on the side (we have grinding toys if they are sleeping on the side though).
All you have to do is, slip the panty vibe right through their boxers/panties (if they are wearing any ;)). This is one of our favourites for Dormaphilia fantasy since it is perfect for teasing or giving them mind-blowing orgasms.
CalExotics Dual Rider: Bump & Grind
The design of a grinding toy of course gives an easy access of your private parts which is why they are the perfect fits for a Dormaphilic/Sleep play. Now, CalExotics remote controlled bump and grind toy is quite a budgeted toy which is going to open your window of hearing them moan like their soul is being sucked from them. If you believe us, we think it's a must have toy for your sock drawer. :P
Inmi Wave Slider with Remote
Now, if your partner enjoys humping, all you have to do is manage to place the Inmi Wave Slider in between their thighs and maybe canoodle them to turn them on. Now, this vibrating silicone pad actually operates with 4 speeds and 7 patterns which is going to give your lover a hands-free orgasm to remember!
Your partner can feel the rows of ribs and the raised mound on the circular cone stimulating their vulva and backdoor.
Is it normal to have Fantasies around Dormaphilia?
Absolutely, exploring unique fantasies like Dormaphilia is a normal part of human sexuality for many people. It's important to remember that our fantasies often serve as a playground for our minds, a space where we can safely explore desires and curiosities that may not align with our everyday lives.
We have mentioned this before but again, the key is to approach these explorations with an open mind and a sense of self-awareness. As long as your fantasy play is consensual and safe, indulging in such imaginings can be a healthy and normal aspect of your sexual identity. It's all about understanding and respecting your boundaries and those of any involved partners.
In conclusion, Remember, it's okay to have different interests, and the most important thing is that both partners feel happy, comfortable, and respected in their relationship. If you have any questions or need advice, don't hesitate to reach out to a trusted adult for guidance.