Are you tired of your vagina not being pleasured to a satisfactory level? Of constantly missing out on thee moment because you're too busy worrying about not reaching climax before the session ends? I think it's safe to say that the vaginal orgasm, as simple as it may seem for vagina owners, should be listed as one of the 7 Wonders of the World. Unfortunately for us females, it can sometimes feel like reaching climax will become a life mission. If you're one of them, regardless if you're in a relationship or not, you've finally clicked on the right blog. I've done some extensive research to compile a simple and effective list of tips to reach your big O (or help your partner reach one).
It's important to remember that every person is unique and what may work for one person may not work for another. With that in mind, here are some general tips for helping a female reach orgasm:
- Communication: If you're the one having trouble reaching climax, make sure you're clear about what you like and how you like it. Be as detailed as possible so your partner learns and adapts to your needs. If you're researching for someone else, encourage your partner to communicate with you about what feels good and what doesn't. Ask them what they need to feel comfortable and relaxed.
- Foreplay: Spend time on foreplay to increase excitement and arousal. Pay attention to erogenous zones such as the nipples, clitoris, and neck. As Monica taught us not too long ago (well not too long for me because I'm currently on the 4th re-watch of Friends) there are 7 erogenous zones on the human body (the 7 wonder of the body if you will) that can be easily seduced during foreplay. The clit, nipples, and neck are definitely amongst the top options, but you'd be surprised by what you can do through a soft kiss on the chest, a tender rub on the back and/or abdomen, and a touch behind the knee or along the wrist. Foreplay doesn't have to (shouldn't) be rushed, and paying attention to every single (or at least most of) the erogenous zones will not only help you (or your partner) reach orgasms, it will strengthen your bond and improve the overall experience.
- Clitoral Stimulation: The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female anatomy and is often the key to orgasm. Some enjoy tender, soft stimulation like that done with tongue and air pulses, others enjoy more intense stimulation such as rapid vibrations. The key is to experiment with different techniques to find what works best for your partner, and evolve together.
- Experimentation: Try different positions and techniques to find what feels best for your partner. Ever heard of the Kama Sutra? Well even though very helpful, it's not a requirement for you and your partner to get wild and try different positions in and out of the bedroom. Just remember one thing, don't be afraid to ask for feedback and adjust accordingly.
- Relaxation: Make sure your partner is relaxed and comfortable. There is no way of reaching the big O without complete comfort and trust. Heads must to be clear and one hundred percent present. This can involve creating a relaxing atmosphere, taking breaks if needed, or focusing on breathing techniques. Whatever the technique you choose, make sure you're both on board.
It's important to remember that not all women are able to orgasm, and that is okay. The most important thing is to create a safe and enjoyable sexual experience for both partners, and most importantly remember there are plenty of orgasm types you can help your(self) or partner achieve!