What are sex toys for women?
They're toys made for clitoral, vaginal or all-over play, solo or with a partner. Most here vibrate. Others pulse air, suck, lick, tap, thrust or warm up, and the hand pumps have no motor at all. Some stay outside on the clit or nipples, some go inside, and a few are built to share with a partner. Each section below links a deeper shelf.
Where to start
Ask a few questions. Where do you want sensation: outside, inside, or both? How hands-free? A bullet stays in your hand; a wearable or grinding pad frees both. What size? Check insertable length and width, and go smaller than you think. A small external toy is the easiest first buy: it teaches you what speed and pressure you like before anything goes inside. Then pick controls: buttons, a remote, or an app that lets a partner steer. Our beginner sex toys page has easy picks.
Types of sex toys for women
Air-pulse toys and clit suckers
These pull at the clit with suction or air pulses instead of buzzing. The Womanizer Classic 2 is touchless, with 10 intensity levels, two head sizes and an Afterglow press that drops it to its lowest setting; it's IPX7. The Destiny gives suction, vibration and tongue flutter a motor each, to run together or apart. The Lily Lover's cup opens 2.8 by 2.2 inches, and it's IPX6: shower only. More rose toys.
Rabbit and dual-stimulation vibrators
A rabbit pairs an insertable shaft with an outside arm for both spots at once. On the 10x Triple Rabbit, the clitoral arm splits into three soft prongs and three motors rumble through 3 speeds plus 7 patterns. It's IPX7, submersible up to 30 minutes. Pillow Talk Kinky has two motors and four crown-like tips. The Vedo Suki Plus pairs a silicone mouth sending sonic waves with a flexible vibrating shaft. More rabbit vibrators.
G-spot vibrators
The G-spot sits just inside, on the belly side, so a curved tip reaches it best. The Playboy Thumper taps: the head of its curved shaft knocks at 3 tapping speeds, with 10 vibration speeds and 4.5 inches insertable. The Inmi Pose Plus bends until its two ends nearly meet, so one end works inside while the other presses on the clit. The Prisms VibraGlass Rose has one silicone end and one glass end. More G-spot vibrators.
Wand massagers
A wand spreads vibration wider, handy if a pointed tip feels sharp. The Le Wand Lick is a double-ender, about 10 inches long: a flicking tongue under a removable suction cup at one end, a curved, textured G-spot massager at the other. It's not for the bath. The AdultLuxe HopWave combines a wand head, an insertable tip and clitoral play, with 10 vibration modes. More wand vibrators.
Wearable and app-controlled toys
The Lovense Flexer, worn in underwear with an insertable arm, has three independent motors for the clit, the G-spot and a come-hither motion, run from the Lovense app solo, together or long-distance. The Playboy Our Little Secret has a 25-foot remote. The E-stim Panty Vibe by Zeus adds electrostimulation to vibration; it's external only, never above the waistline. More vibrating panties.
Strapless strap-ons and double dildos
No harness: a short end sits inside the wearer, and the longer shaft goes to a partner. The Strap-On-Me Multi-Orgasm bends to shape, runs three motors and comes with a remote reaching up to about 33 feet (10 meters); the Small gives 5.79 inches insertable. The Strapless Dildo with Air Suction adds an air-pulsing suction point, a 5.5-inch insertable shaft and a 3.5-inch insertable end for the wearer, and it's completely submersible. More strap-ons and harnesses.
Pussy pumps and nipple toys
Pumps work by suction: a cup or cylinder seals over the vulva, clit or a nipple while a bulb, trigger or motor draws out air. The Master Series 3-Way connects one trigger pump to three cylinders (two for nipples, one for the clit) and has a quick-release valve. The Size Matters Vaginal Pump Kit pairs a contoured cup with a squeeze ball; the Bloom Automatic pumps for you. The Blush Aria Flutter Tongue works on the clit or nipples. More pussy pumps and nipple toys.
Toys for couples
Any remote or app toy can go to a partner of any gender; a few are built for two. The Together Vibe 2.0 is W-shaped for face-to-face sex: press one outer arm and the other echoes it. The Inmi Pulse Slider is a grinding pad with a clit pulser and a remote that reaches up to 16 feet. The Ride N' Grind adds two textured zones and a remote effective up to 23 feet. More couples sex toys.
How to choose
- Where. Outside, inside or both: a clit sucker, a G-spot toy or a rabbit.
- Feel. Suction pulls, vibration buzzes, tapping knocks, thrusting moves.
- Size. Compare insertable length and width, and start smaller.
- Controls. Buttons, a remote or an app; check each remote's range.
- Water. IPX7 or fully submersible toys can share your bath; IPX4 to IPX6 and splash-proof ones belong in the shower.
- Charging. Most here recharge by USB; check each toy's run time.
- Material. Silicone, ABS, glass and metal are non-porous; TPR and TPE are porous.
How to use your first toy
- Wash it, and charge it if it's rechargeable.
- Add water-based lube to you and the toy.
- Switch on at the lowest setting and start outside: thighs, nipples, then the clit.
- Explore slowly. Going inside? Ease in and angle a curved tip toward your navel.
- With a partner, agree first, pick a word or signal that stops play at once, and show them what you like.
- Switch off, clean it, dry it fully and put it away.
Cleaning, care and safety
- Washing. Use gentle soap and warm water, or toy cleaner, and air-dry completely. Only IPX7 or fully submersible toys go under water. Store each toy apart.
- Lube. Water-based with silicone toys; porous TPR and TPE parts take water-based only.
- Pumps. Start at the lowest pressure, keep sessions to a few minutes, and release at any pain or numbness. Never pump broken or irritated skin.
- E-stim. If you have a pacemaker or any heart condition, talk to your doctor before trying it.
- Anal play calls for a flared base, and a toy never goes from anus to vagina unwashed. See a doctor about pain, bleeding or numbness that doesn't fade.
Sex toys for women FAQ
What's the best sex toy for a beginner?
A small external toy. The Womanizer Starlet 3 offers 6 intensity levels in about 4.6 inches. The Satisfyer Ultra Power Bullet 8 has a narrow tip for pinpoint play and an angled surface for broader contact. Start on the lowest setting.
What is a clit sucker?
A toy with a small opening that sits over the clit and pulls with suction or air pulses, often with vibration added. The Bloomgasm Enchanted Rose closes a 0.5-inch mouth over the clit, with 3 suction levels across 7 patterns. Start low.
What's the difference between a rabbit and a G-spot vibrator?
A rabbit has a shaft for inside and an arm for the clit; a G-spot vibrator focuses inside, with a curved tip. The 12x Come-Hither Rocker does both: its ears straddle the clitoral hood while the shaft makes a come-hither motion.
Can I use a sex toy with a partner?
Yes. Small toys fit between bodies during sex, and remote or app toys let a partner drive, like the Butterfly Tease, whose remote covers up to 26 feet. Agree your limits ahead of time, plus a word that stops everything at once.
Are sex toys waterproof?
Some are. IPX7 or fully submersible toys, like the Womanizer Premium 2 and the Tongue Tied, can come into the bath. IPX5 and IPX6 toys are shower-only. The Fantasy For Her Rechargeable Pleasure Pump Kit isn't waterproof: keep it out of the bath and never submerge it.
What lube should I use?
Water-based, since any toy material can take it. Silicone lube can harm a silicone toy's surface, so patch-test first or skip it. Oil-based lube degrades latex, TPE and TPR. A little water-based lube around a pump cup's edge helps it seal.
How do I clean my toys?
After each session, use mild soap and a warm rinse, or toy cleaner, then air-dry. Keep charging ports dry, and motors too unless the toy has a water rating. Porous materials, like the TPR in the Size Matters kit, need a thorough wash.
Are sex toys discreet to buy?
Yes. Orders ship in a plain box with no branding. We ship from several US warehouses, so two items can arrive separately. Orders of $75 and up ship free; economy shipping usually takes 4 to 7 business days. US addresses only.
Want our top picks?
Read Best Vibrators for Beginners, then compare pumps in The 8 Best Pussy Pumps. Every order ships discreetly from the US, free over $75.
